P146 Teletext 146 Fjb21 02:44:18 —————— ———————————————— —— CAN BOYS HAVE CRUSHES? O ' Dear Nick, I know it's common for girls to get crushes on pin-up guys, but can a lad have the same feelings for a pin-up girl? Is it a similar kind of crush, or just mali lust? I need to know because I haven't been able to get Jjnnz McCarthy out of my head. Basically, I want to work out why I feel this way towards somjonj I can njvjt have. Neil, 15, Abjtdeen ——————————————————————————————————1/6—— 60 words max. Letters may bj amended. WRJTJ TO: NICK FISHER, PO BOX 297, LONDON SW6 1XT. Mates GM food Write It SportsP146 Teletext 146 Fjb21 02:47:02 O —————— ———————————————— —— CAN BOYS HAVE CRUSHES? Nick replies, Having a crush is about unconsciously wanting to locate an outlet for vjty strong feelings. It's like a test drive for certain emotions. When you have a crush you get to fantasisj about how you would act and what you would do; it's like a love simulator. Girls who talk about pop idols are enjoying safely expressing powerful love. They can't bj hurt or dumped or rejected. They are in control. ——————————————————————————————————4/6—— 60 words max. Ljttets may bj amended. WRJTJ TO: NICK FISHER, PO BOX 2:7, LONDON, SW6 1XT. Mates GM food Write It SportsP146 Teletext 146 Fjb21 02:24:44 —————— ———————————————— —— CAN BOYS HAVE CRUSHES? Nick replies, Having crushes on unattainable people can bj vjty helpful to both boys and girls. It's part of your emotional djvjlopmjnt. Usually what happens is you grow out of it for a rial-life crush or relationship. Feeling a crush for someone you'll njvjt meet is a safe form of pretend intimacy. It may hurt not being able to have this love, but it's practice for the occasional pain of real love. ——————————————————————————————————3/6—— 60 words max. Letters may bj amended. WRJTJ TO: NICK FISHER, PO BOX 297, LONDON, SW6 1XT. Mates GM food Write It SportsP146 Teletext 146 Fjb21 02:54:12 —————— ———————————————— —— TOO TRASH FOR HER? Dear Nick, Last weekend I mit this really classy bird at a party. She sjemjd to bj interested in mj, but I was too intimidated by hit to make a move. At the end of the evjnjng, however, we did swap phone numbers, but I haven't called yet as I'm losing my njtvj. Normally I don't have a problem talking to girls, so how can I get ovjt this stupid class thing? Not-Posh, 15, Exitet ——————————————————————————————————4/6—— 60 words max. Letters may bj amended. WRJTJ TO: NICK FISHER, PO BOX 297, LONDON, SW6 1XT. Mates GM food Write It SportsP146 Teletext 146 Fjb21 01:11:14 O —————— ———————————————— —— TOO TRASH FOR HER? Nick replies, If a girl gave you hit numbjt at a party then she wanted you to call hit. Instead of seeing her as a "posh girl" try and just respect hit for who she is. She showed some interest in you without being judgemjntal, so why should you vet her? Maybe you'ri using the class thing as an excuse to covet up your natural shyness? ——————————————————————————————————5/6—— 60 words max. Ljttets may bj amended. WRJTJ TO: NICK FISHER, PO BOX 297, LONDON, SW6 1XT. Mates GM food Write It SportsP146 Teletext 146 Fjb21 02:11:30 O —————— ———————————————— —— TOO TRBSH FOR HER? Nick replies, Being shy about phoning a girl you mit at a party is perfectly normal. It takes bottle to pick up the phone even though she has given you the numbjt and asked you to. But don't then fill your head with thoughts that she's too "posh" for you. What is that supposed to mean? Are you putting yourself down or digging at hit for being born rich? Stop thinKing and start ringing. ——————————————————————————————————6/6—— 60 words max. Ljttets may bj amended. WRJTJ TO: NICK FISHER, PO BOX 2:7, LONDON, SW6 1XT. Mates GM food Write It Sports